Has asking for a raise ever ruined your relationship with your employer?

Has asking for a raise ever ruined your relationship with an employer? I have a good job, generous benefits, stock options, lots of PTO. I have 5 years experience in open source technologies. I believe in the company I work for, its management team and its product. That being said, many engineers have been leaving. I have been at the company for 7 months and am happy, but it's clear that right now they need senior developers and I'm not sure there could be a better time to ask for a raise. If they denied me a raise I would stay there (dont tell them). What I'm concerned about is the small???? chance that it ruins my relationship with my employer. I have a newborn and my partner quit her job to stay at home. I earn 80k and am Extremely grateful to have such a good job, but at the same time I believe with a small amount of work I could earn more. I would feel like a complete idiot if I tried to capitalize on lack of ability to retain people at my current position. Has anyo